The way that I generally function in life is to keep my challenges to myself until they are resolved. Part of the reason for that is my perception of the Law of Attraction. I don’t like to chat overly much about where things are difficult in life because I don’t want to give power to the words and possibly anchor in the troubles.
However, a conversation that I had last night with my husband Lee has stuck with me. I have decided to break with my regular rules in hopes that in doing so, maybe what we’ve been dealing with will be helpful to some of you “out there.”
The last few days have been rough. Frankly, the last 6 months have been rough. Lee incurred a spinal injury that has largely kept him stuck in bed since early November. Recovery has been slow and arduous with false hopes of progress. We still have no real idea as to when he will be back on his feet and living a normal life. That has made me his primary caretaker. Throw covid – and all that it entails – on top of that and what you wind up with is two very exhausted guys.
Conversely, my career and life purpose are at an all-time high. I have more opportunities to teach and be of service than ever in my life. I can barely keep up!
The conversation that I had with Lee last night was that I felt that we were living in an imbalance of extremes. There’s a famous quote by Charles Dickens that goes “It was the best of times; it was the worst of times.” On one end of the extreme is our personal lives as we try to conquer Lee’s injury and put our lives back to normal. On the other end of the extreme is my career which couldn’t be in a happier place. How this is making me feel, is like the center point of a big piece of taffy being stretched from one end of the room to the other. The thinnest part is the middle. That’s the most unpleasant place and that’s where I feel like I’m living in my life. In the stretched middle of this imbalance of extremes. I want to be happy and celebrate the good parts, but the bad parts are requiring literally my every waking hour.
I am betting that there are people who are reading this and thinking “Yes. This is me. I totally get what Rad is saying. So hard to focus on the good stuff, when the bad stuff demands focus, action, and attention.”
But that brings us back to the Law of Attraction aspect. The good stuff simply must have our attention. It must be focused on and given more than just a passing thought. It’s absolutely imperative that when the taffy of life is stretched to its limits, that we turn our sights to the blessings in our lives and reach out to the angels that love us and exist to help through life’s most challenging times.
If there is a way to not pay attention to life’s difficult demands, then that information has missed my view. Lee needs care and that’s my job. Just like it was my job when Jace (our Shelty boy) needed nursing back from his cancer in January.
Life’s challenges demand our attention. The important thing is to find a way to force ourselves to take time every day, several times a day, and refocus our attention to the good stuff.
In all honesty, I am sharing this with you because I am trying to train myself. I learn more things by teaching others than any other way.
So here’s what I’m going to do. I am going to set a series of alarms on my phone to remind me to stop what I am doing and focus on the joyful things. If I’m tending to Lee and can’t stop what I’m doing in that moment, I’ll just hit snooze so that the alarm will go off again. But the rule will be that I have to eventually stop and focus on the happy things and the promise of the future for at least 10 minutes.
Because, here’s the thing… Lee will get better. He will. How much longer it will take, I don’t know. But he will get better. And once he has, there will be a lightness of being in this house that will be impossible to describe. The joyful times in the future will be all the more joyful because we will have learned not to take blessings for granted.
I sincerely hope that sharing this with you helps you. And if not you personally, maybe you know someone “out there” who is living through an imbalance of extremes that you can share these ideas with.
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