I’m a pretty positive guy. For the most part, I have my sights on feel-good thoughts about what I want to manifest in my life. However, lately I have found myself struggling with worry. Worry tends to lead me into anxiety, which then turns into a full-blown ego-fest where my thoughts go totally off the rails into negativity and fear. On the occasions when that happens, I find myself fighting to think positive things instead, but it can literally feel like I’m at war with my own brain. That’s not a good place to be. It reminds me of when Louise Hay used to say “be kind to your mind.”
When things get too out of control, I have my own little way of leading my mind back from the dark side. What I do is go sit in my happy chair.
I just heard masses of you reading this think “Now what is he talking about now?” LOL!
I have a chair. I call it the happy chair because when I’m sitting in it, I’m not allowed to think about fear, worry, or anything negative. If I’m feeling challenged with my thoughts, I go sit in that chair and I have to immediately think about positive things, things that make me happy, or things I’m grateful for. If my thoughts stray back to worry, I have to get up out of the chair and walk away – even if it’s just briefly. I can walk to the kitchen and back, but when I sit back down in the happy chair, I have go back to thinking happy thoughts. If I don’t do that, I have to get up and walk around again.
Basically, I’m training my brain that if I sit in that chair, worry must dissolve, negativity has to end, and my fearful ego must withdraw.
Another thing I like to do when I’m forced out of my happy chair by wandering thoughts is to have a little mantra I use while I walk around to regain control. Something like “I am fearless and I know the Divine loves me.” Just say it over and over again until you feel like you have enough control to go back and sit in your happy chair. Continue to say it in your happy chair if that’s the best you can do. Then try to refocus your thoughts onto joyful subjects. Your goal is to get to stay in the happy chair as long as you wish without allowing your ego to kick you out of it!
If you’d like to sit with me (metaphorically speaking) then I would like to suggest that you choose your own “happy chair.” I highly recommend it be a chair that you can somewhat dedicate to the purpose of quieting negative thoughts – at least at first. If you have the option, try not to choose a chair that you sit in all the time because then it will be difficult for your mind to realize that only positive thoughts are allowed in that chair. My happy chair in one that I never sit in except to regain control of my thoughts. And definitely try not to sit in the chair you regularly work in, check social media from, or anything that can lead to anxiety. Don’t make your “happy chair” a chair where someone else has control over what you’re doing or seeing.
To reinforce this, I will sometimes just go sit in my happy chair because I realized I was thinking about something that was making me smile. If I’m making plans for something joyful, I’ll try to do it from that chair. It’s all just training the mind that only happy things happen there.
And if it helps, feel free to imagine me in my happy chair thinking positive thoughts right alongside of you.
Angel blessings,
~Radleigh
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I love this idea ! I am just adding a gorgeous antique rocking chair I love in my bedroom to make it a reading and writing chair. Making it my happy chair sounds perfect! Thank you so very much for sharing your idea.
Have a great day
Dear Radleigh, your idea of a happy chair is inspiring, and I am really pleased you have this chair. It is very easy in these sad times to get oneself into a negative mind space. However we all need to stay strong and positive if not for ourselves then for those for whom we are a beacon of light for. I always remind myself I have a big burly muscle angle standing right behind me and no matter what he will protect me so I have nothing to worry about or fear. The other God save, is the knowledge that the Angels have always got our back. Radleigh you are a delight and a joy to us all. Keep smiling that gorgeous smile and it will melt all the sad and worrying clouds away.
I send you blessings, the kindest wishes and a big warm hug. Your cards inspire me each and every day to me you are my Angel and always in my prayers of gratitude.
Take care and be well.
Paul
This is great Radleigh, thanks for sharing. I am all about teaching others (and myself) to retrain our brains for positive intelligence and what a fun and easy way to do it! 🙂
Thanks a lot, Radleigh, for sharing your wonderful idea about the “happy chair” . I love it and it resonates very much with me.
In my room (work space or little office) at home I have got a wonderful red tv armchair with a cushion for my legs to rest on. While reading your blog I thought of transforming this armchair into my happy chair from today on. Because it is in my work space I did not use it that much as if it were in my living room. Therefore it will be the right place to go to if I have negative thoughts or if I worry too much. My room is not only the place I work for school, but it is also the place where I have my little private sanctuary with my angels and rosaries, pictures and so on. Well, I think I will use my office more often for my self care as I used it the years ago. Love and angel blessings from Germany. Monika
I love the idea of a Happy Chair. Now I’ll need to find one!!
What a nice idea I have chair especially for relaxing…which I rarely use …and about an hour ago I was pondering if it wouldn’t be a good idea to have “good nights ritual” before I go to bed – well, I’m going to start it today exactly in that chair
– I just love synchronicities, thank you so much Radleigh .
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Thank you Radleigh for being the gentle soul that you are.