I wanted to share some thoughts with you. I have noticed on my pages and in my groups what seems like an unusual number of people having to process loss and grief right now. Of course, it might just be that because I’m in that space, I’m just more aware of others around me who are also in that space. But I am having a moment of clarity and I wanted to share some insights in hopes that it might help others.
It has been a month since Jace passed away. It simultaneously feels like it was last week and it also feels like an eternity ago. After he passed, Lee and I discussed what signs would be attributed as messages from him from the other side. We didn’t initially come up with something, but Jace quickly told us what he would be using. When on a walk with Riley that same day, a white butterfly and a blue dragonfly sat down on the same flower next to one another and then flew off.
Alrighty then. That works for me.
If you read last week’s blog, then you know that I just had surgery and we’re getting ready to move cross country. The surgery forced me into some downtime. As a part of that, I quietly asked Jace several times for a sign….
Keep in mind, that if a white butterfly flutters by or a blue dragonfly zips across my path, I mostly just take that to mean “Hey dad! I’m fine! I love you and I’m watching out for you.” I also have a tendency with all signs to pause and reflect on what was I thinking about in the moment that the sign presented itself. Not just signs from Jace, but also from the angels, the Divine, etc.
In my life, asking for a sign almost always gets me an immediate response. But not this past week. I asked Jace for a sign a couple of times over two days and didn’t see anything. Of course, maybe I just missed it. But in my mind, I remember thinking “Oh, well. Maybe he’s busy.” And then that got me thinking “Yeah, but busy doing what?”
My belief system includes the idea that time is irrelevant on the other side. And that includes the thought that whatever passed over loved ones are doing doesn’t preclude them popping in or arranging for a sign at any point in our lives because even if they are busy, at any moment that they’re not busy, they can send that sign into our human timeline when we asked for it.
I apologize for that run-on sentence. However, the idea begs the question if no sign is also a sign. But let’s carry that further.
A couple of days after I had asked for signs, but felt that I didn’t receive anything, I happen to look outside the window to see a white butterfly float past. “Oh, hello Jace! There you are! Thank you, and I love you.”
But why then? Why in that moment two days later? Was the absence of a sign earlier in the week meant as emphasis for the sign when it appeared? And what was I thinking in that moment that might have been more important?
I know all of this might seem very cerebral regarding a topic that is very spiritual and emotional. Don’t get me wrong, we are still grieving. We still trip over landmines and fall apart. The thing I’m dreading most about packing up this house for the move is that I am sure there are many other landmines hidden in drawers or thrown in closets that will reduce either Lee or me to tears.
But there are also moments like the one from which I’m writing this to you now. Times where I’m grounded enough to question and to process his absence as well as his spiritual presence in my life. When I am hurting or when an awful memory of those last two days happens to just pop into my mind (I hate that by the way) I have found that the best neutralizer I have is to just focus on how much love we shared and continue to share.
Just think about the love, Rad. Just think about the love.
When I have a grounded time that I can try to process these things, I try to stop what I’m doing and take it. Those moments don’t last that long. Trying to analyze it eventually makes the grief come back so I have to take those times when I get them and then move on.
But to circle back… if you’re asking for signs and feeling as though you didn’t receive one, have some patience. Give thought to the possibility that the sign is coming, but that the pause is to give more power and poignancy to the moment in which the sign finally does show up. Pay attention to your thoughts or what you are doing in the moment that the sign presents itself to consider if that is part of the message. This is true for all signs. Signs from angels, archangels, guides, passed over loved ones, and from Source itself. Trust that the sender of the sign probably knows more about what will help you than you do.
Oh. And when your heart hurts, focus on the love.
Angel blessings,
~Radleigh
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Radleigh-
I just adore you! We met in TX at a 2 day angel workshop with Dougall. I’m so very sorry about Jase
You’re absolutely correct, we are all experiencing loss right now. A long story but I will “try” to condense it. My sister passed last week at 59, in her home and not from covid, just other health issues. It was sudden. I had to handle everything and returned back from NC to TN very raw of course. I have received 3 signs already of her presence. She and I were very close. The signs were all subtle – a mourning dove appeared and sat with me my first day home for 45 minutes just looking at me as I cried my eyes out and spoke to Kim. I also had a song come on “Cry, please don’t cry” by Waterfront (yes I’m an 80’s high school child). I t was the first time that week I had been alone. Heaven sent! Then I open a popular weekly magazine that always has an angel section on the back, and in bold letters it says “Grieving the loss of a sister” with hearts all over it.
She’s right here. I’m going back to work today hoping my mind can juggle everything before me. She was an extremely strong woman and I know she’s right her by me and help me push through. Wanted to share my friend! Hugs to you and Lee. Prayers for your healing to continue and your move to Colorado.
Light and love,
Jenny
Thank you for sharing. Sending angels of healing to you.
What a beautiful story you shared. Signs are always there from our angels. She’s in heaven looking down on you. Sending you love. ♥️
Sometimes it helps to just acknowledge the feelings and have a moment with them. Just don’t let them take over your whole life, but say, “I hear you and I understand your presence. Thank you for being here.” Let it have its say and move on.
Thank you for sharing this gentle, yet so powerful reminder that time is irrelevent on the other side (my belief as well). That all messages come at the perfect time. And the love they brought will always remain. Perfect timing (as always) to my “unanswered questions”.
Rad I’m sending gentle love to you and Lee, so when you find those “landmines” while packing, you will know that Jace is just letting you know he is ready to move with you. When I think of Jace I keep hearing something about a slipper.
Those of us in Colorado will miss you. Loved meeting you at the Shining Lotus a couple of years ago. Best wishes on your new journey.
What a beautiful message, thank you so much for sharing so much of yourself with the world. I am so glad I found your page.
Hey Radleigh.
It’s funny how we all believe in the same thing looking for a sign from a loved one that has passed that they are in heaven and ok. When we know without a doubt they are there. Busy? Yes seeing ppl who crossed before them, getting a grip on their new reality of being gone from earth back home to the heavenly realm. You know Jace and everyone who has loved you and you loved that has passed are always helping you on your journey here.
I love you and your cards are beautiful and speak so well to me. I read them as I see them and as spirit tells me. I look up the meanings a few times til I really get to know and understand them better.
You said your moving…where are you moving too? I’d love to see you in Florida in October but It will not happen at this time. Sending you love n light my friend, I feel so blessed to have you in my life ❤ . Love you always
Was so very sorry to hear about Jace. It’s so very hard to lose a loved one. When I had to put my dog down due to many different health issues I too was just devastated. On the way home from the vet I looked up & saw the most beautiful rainbow & I knew she was safe as she had crossed over the rainbow bridge. I miss her every day. ❤️ Sending prayers & hugs ❤️
Radleigh , I just want to thank you, and thank you whoever brought you into my life. I have been a little behind on everything, as I started a new job recently, and I just haven’t been able to focus on my usual stuff. That being said U just read the blog about Jace and signs. And it has been almost 2 years since my boyfriend past, and I am still dealing with the loss un my life, and the spiritual aspect of it all. I was bound and setermined that I wasn’t going to lose him, but now I don’t feel himaround as much anymore. So I want to thank you for having the courage to write that blog.
Sorry for typos; it is late