As I type this, I find myself in a pre-surgical room at one of the best medical facilities in the country. They just took Lee, (my husband) back for a procedure. Please do not worry, he will be fine. Eventually. However, this injury has been something of a long path to recovery and this procedure is the third attempt to bring him to a place of healing. If it doesn’t work, then we are almost certainly headed for a much more serious full-blown surgery.
Because of this, Lee is particularly nervous today. At one point, we thought he was going to pass out. Or throw up. Once the nurses were sure he was okay, they left the room. As we sat here waiting for them to take him back for his procedure, I could see the fear and worry in his eyes so I started to go to one of my “happy places” in my mind. But then it occurred to me… what if I took Lee with me?
Lee and I love where we live. That being said, there is also another place in the world where we both adore being. So, this is what I said to him “Lee, remember when we visit our “home away from home” and we go to that restaurant on the roof? We always get there at 11am because it’s so popular that that’s the only reservation we can ever get. We’re always the first, second, or third people to be seated on the patio so it’s like having the place to ourselves. The sun shines and the wind softly blows. The weather is perfect. We always look at each other and let out a sigh of contentment as we allow the joy of the moment to blow over us. We look at the beauty around us and we haven’t a care in the world. And then we take a selfie.”
Just then, the nurse came to take him back. I looked at Lee and his eyes were smiling above his mask. As he started to leave, I said “Lee, while you’re back there, in your mind, sit on the patio.”
That’s when it occurred to me to ask myself if I am dodging a possible truth in my life. And that’s when I started typing this blog.
As I said, Lee and I love where we live. But whenever things get tough or there is anxiety in the air, I go sit in my happy chair (see last week’s blog) and the first thing I think about is this other place we also love. I mean come on… my husband is so scared about this procedure that he’s about to pass out and my way of soothing his nerves is to remind him of a memory from there.
So, should we just move? If that’s our “happy place” why don’t we just live there? It is doable. But there would be many hoops to jump through. It wouldn’t be an easy thing. It would be extremely disruptive.
If you ever read my book “How to Be Your Own Genie,” then you know my mother had a fear of regret. Big decisions were enormous obstacles and I’ve known since my 20s that she passed that along to me. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that I really have to keep my own finger on my own pulse in this regard to make sure fear of regret isn’t unduly disempowering my life choices. The challenge here is that we love where we live now. What if we were to move and then realize that we only liked visiting there but don’t actually like living there?
As mistakes go, that would be a doozie!
And yet… this discussion simply never goes away. Lee and I have been batting around this possibility for at least five years.
We as human beings dodge the truth from time to time. The Universe comes a calling with a message and we shield our eyes or convince ourselves it means something else. I have asked for signs in the past about possibly moving and I have never thought I got a clear answer (and I’m the guy who lives for signs!) But maybe I’m just not seeing what’s plainly written on the wall? Or maybe I’m confused because the answer isn’t yes or no, but “not yet.”
Is there a place in your life right now where you might be dodging the truth?
Lee is back. The procedure went as expected. Now we wait. And pray. And hope.
When I get home, I’m going to go sit in my happy chair and think about my happy place.
Angel blessings,
~Radleigh
PS. Thank you for your prayers for Lee. I know y’all and I know it’s the first thing you thought to do.
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Angels are watching over Lee and you. Believe as you always say that we are never alone
All will be all right
Lot of healing energy sent to Lee.
Prayers that this procedure, and the healing from it, will be all that Lee will need for the problem. As to your other “happy place”. We all have those places that bring us so much peace and calm but what I have found from doing a relocation because of that feeling is that there was no place like “home”. I do regret the change – I had a better job, my late husband felt better there and we had a beautiful home. But we both had more friends in the area we moved to. Now my husband is gone due to health issues from a higher elevation, my job stinks and we both out grew the friends we had here. Plus we also found the seamier side of the area. But after 22 years here I decided last Spring that I needed to make this my “new” home. My job won’t change until something else comes along but my home is now my refuge and I am finding places that speak to my heart once again. Go to your home away from home for longer than a visit. Try a month and travel all around to see if the underside is as bright as what you love about the area. Good luck Radleigh. You will find that sweet spot for you and Lee.
I’m glad everything with Lee surgery went well. Angels were watching over him. Hopefully my husband and I will be able to move to our happy place too.
It is too cold where we live! Love all the seasons but I rather experience them in a milder way. Going South…
Blessings to You and Lee,
Sally
Radleigh and Lee – I’m sending you heartfelt healing energy and blessings for a speedy recovery. Then both of you – go and spend realistic time in that special new location as if you were living there, not as a tourist or visitor but living there for a few months. Get the vibes, does it feel that you both could live there and it meets all your needs – before making a big step forward. Thank you for all you do. All the best TJ.
Thank you for this post. It comes at a perfect time for me. I try not to have regrets and I try not to rehash old regrets. My husband and I talk of moving…but it seems a monumental decision and brings with it all kinds of “what ifs”. Now I know I am not alone.
I will go to my happy chair today (thank you for that happy chair post) and think of good things to get me out of this covid weary life. I enjoy your posts.
Prayers for healing, clarity and contentment. I appreciate your authenticity and the sharing. Abundant Blessings.
Hope Lee makes a full recovery. I have every sympathy with the way he felt before he went for his procedure. I’ve done exactly the same. My thoughts and prayers are with you both at this time.
As for dodging a question, don’t worry you will get your answer very soon. I have complete faith that things happen for a reason and you will soon know what to do next. XXX
Sending healing angel prayers to Lee for a complete recovery! Thank you for your wisdom Radleigh! You always uplift my soul:)
Thank you so much for sharing about your life, Radleigh. You are a true inspiration. I am amazed that all the decks shown here are your creation! All the best to you and your husband.
Sending Lee and Radleigh the biggest hug from BC Canada. You are so loved.
My Mum used to tell me when I felt I wanted to move to somewhere I thought I loved
“go lease a place for 6 months and live there – you’ll be sure to know if you want to stay”……………..of course don’t sell the home you have now. Wait for Lee to recover from his procedure – let life come to you. Don’t forget to ask Joshua for clarity. You are loved by so many – feel the love and know everything turns out for your highest good, even when it seems you’re sitting under a dark cloud…….go sit in your Happy Chair and allow happiness to enfold you.
Angel love and hugs,
Diane xoxoxoxoxoxo
Your right I did pray for him. Blessings all ways. So bet it.
Sending light and love to Lee. ❤
P.S. I just listened to the Weather Report for this week. Raleigh listen to the report as if it was meant for YOU. Great advice for what you are going through now!
Love you,
Diane xoxoxox
God bless Lee with a speedy recovery and no after effects. God bless you too Radleigh because matters like this are hard on our loved ones. If you love where you live I’d stay there and just use the other place for special occasions.
Hope Lee will have a speedy recovery and all will be well. My thoughts are with both of you.
For your home away from home…sometimes it’s harder to see the signs when it has to do with ourselves ;).
But I’m sure the Angels will try harder if you can’t see them clearly and are ignoring them.
Keep on having faith that they will give you clear signs.
Big hugs from Susan from the Netherlands
I found this saying a number of years ago and it has stuck with me ever since. written by SH Payer. Maybe this will help.:
Live each day to the fullest.
Get the most from each hour, each day, and each age of your life.
Then you can look forward with confidence, and back without regrets.
Be yourself, but be your best self.
Dare to be different and follow your own star.
Don’t be afraid to be happy and enjoy what is beautiful.
Love with all your heart and soul. Believe that those you love, love you.
When you are faced with decision, make that decision as wisely as possible, then forget it.
The moment of absolute certainty never arrives.
Above all, remember that God helps those who help themselves.
Act as if everything depended on you and pray as if everything depended on god.
Radleigh, did you ever consider that your happy place is just that BECAUSE it is somewhere special and NOT where you live? I have several happy places not in my home and one in my home. When I’m away from home and need a happy place, I often go right back to my own spot in my own house. Our life journey allows us to find many happy places to go to. . . and I think that may be one of the reasons they are what they are. You have to GO there. Hugs!
Radleigh, you and Lee are in my good thoughts and prayers.
Yes Radleigh!
We’re DEFINITELY praying, already prayed, about to pray and will continue to pray for Lee’s health and happiness, as well as yours, Sweetie. You’ve given so much to us, how could we NOT?
You are in my heart. Remember, ‘Don’t sweat the BIG stuff’!